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  1. Samuel Loveland (@samuelloveland)
    18 March 2013 @ 7:25 pm

    I agree with the general wisdom of this post, but I also feel a rebuttal coming on. I have been a direct person since I can remember, and my family has plenty of funny stories that go even further back. I read “How to Win Friends and Influence People” every couple months, I do my best to be courteous, flexible, and complimentary, and I try to take a very optimistic view with everyone I meet.

    However, I often find myself labeled with “rude” or “jerk” when I speak up about something. What’s up with that?

    Maybe the title of your blog covers it: Jerks don’t care. I know I do. I may not be as good with communicating as I WANT to be, but I care, and I’m always trying to become better.

    Despite this I’ve lost friends, jobs, and probably potential friends (or jobs) due to my brevity… but never once have I tried to step on anyone’s toes or judge them harshly.

  2. Eric
    19 March 2013 @ 7:09 am

    Samuel, thank you for that thoughtful and self-aware reply.

    There are many people who are direct and abrupt, not out of disrespect, but out of efficiency or simple honesty. It’s a style that doesn’t work with everyone, and it sounds like you’ve experienced that.

    On the other hand, there are some who are so sensitive that they are like reverse-jerks, they manipulate by being offended.

  3. Samuel Loveland (@samuelloveland)
    19 March 2013 @ 3:25 pm

    Good point… I especially like the reverse-jerks comment. ^_^

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